I've been on a major self-help kick lately. I blame my podcast addiction. I'm one of those grown-ups who misses school and podcasts have helped fill that longing for sitting in a lecture hall. It all started when a friend recommended Magic Lessons. I've got to be honest, Elizabeth Gilbert kinda bugs me sometimes, but I enjoyed her message (Episodes 1 and 12 had me in tears) and it got me hooked on podcasts. Since then my subscribe list has become quite ecclectic, but there is one podcast that has really changed the way I see things: Happier with Gretchen Rubin. I'll admit the first episode I listened to I thought, "These ladies are a bit strange and they seem to be trying to impersonate the guys from Car Talk." But then I listened to an episode about the Four Tendencies that blew my mind (I'm an Upholder married to a Rebel in case you're wondering). I have since listened to every single episode and I've grown to love Gretchen and her sister Elizabeth. They make striving for a better, happier life sound doable. And if nothing else they have helped me learn how to play to my strengths instead of battling my weaknesses.
My love of the Happier podcast, of course, lead me to buy Better Than Before* (I got it from the library first, but then decided it was too good not to own) and it has my head swirling with hopes for better habits. What I like most about Grethen's approach is the emphasis on getting to know yourself better. For example, one thing I've realized is that I do best if I keep my goals private. I can't tell you how many times I've declared I will do something and simply declaring it somehow takes the wind out of my sails. So, while I am working to radically change many of my habits, I'm not going to make any huge declarations right now. I do however intend to check back in when I see what sticks and share what I've learned. I've got my new Get To Work Book and nice set of pens and I'm ready to dive in. I feel both excited and trepidatious. I want to make changes as long as they feel positive and energizing. As soon as I start dreading my new habits I know it will be time to reexamine. I need to remind myself that I can do anything, but not everything.
Now I can't finish this post about resolutions without sharing one that I read by my friend Anne of Flax & Twine. It already has me thinking twice about a few of my goals. If you've ever struggled with asking too much of yourself, I encourage you to read her beautiful words.
How about you? Have you ever dug into the self-help world, any books I should check out? Am I the only one that does better with secret goals? And perhaps most importantly, what are your favorite podcasts?
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